Oh, no—Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus and the Jonas Brothers may have made a serious boo-boo when they recently traded in their purity rings for fellow teen star booty! Why's that? Well, supposedly, couples who wait 'til "I do" to do it are "happier with the quality of sex" and enjoy "a stable, happier marriage" than couples who have sex before they take their vows. Or so says a new study in the Journal of Family Psychology. Researchers had 2,035 married couples participate in an online assessment called "RELATE" and found that people who waited until marriage to jump in the sack: * rated sexual quality 15% higher than people who had premarital sex * rated relationship stability as 22% higher * rated satisfaction with their relationships 20% higher Even if a couple waited a while to have sex, if they had slept together before marriage, period, the benefits were cut in half. It may be that couples report greater satisfaction and sexual quality if they’ve waited because the extra time gives them longer to learn about each other and develop the skills necessary for good relationships, said the study author, Dean Busby, Ph.D., a professor at Brigham Young University. If these findings sound like the sunshine, lollipops and marshmallow key to lasting love, wait one minute, because there's a catch. The research was based on a questionnaire conceived and interpreted by experts at Brigham Young University, a Mormon school that preaches conservative values, or in other words, is run by religious folks vehemently opposed to premarital sex. So, while this study may be intriguing to some—not to those of us who would find it unwise to buy or even lease a car without a test drive!—it's crucial to consider the source of the findings.The Church Convinced Me Not To Have Sex Of course you have to learn how to communicate outside of the bedroom in order to create a successful, satisfying bond. No one celebrates their 50th wedding anniversary one day if their bond is only about being hot and bothered. But most of us want to at least know whether or not we can connect with a partner on a mental, emotional and physical level—with good reason! That's because a sexual bond is central to a well-rounded, solid foundation for love. Without it, you're probably just stumbling into "death do us part" in blind, ignorant bliss.

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Pinkee here~ Basically there are two reasons. One is the more common reason that most people probably think about when they ask themselves this question. It’s a physiological response. Blood flows to the genitals, both male and female, when sexual excitement occurs, and the intense feeling of pleasure that orgasm brings is the sensation that results when all the extra blood that’s been building up gets released at once. Then there’s the other reason. This is the one that I really want to talk about. It’s like Tantra 101: orgasm feels so good because when you experience orgasm you are one with God. Now, don’t freak out everyone. I’m not talking about an invisible man in the sky that can punish you if you do bad things. I’m talking about God, Source, All That Is, whatever you want to call it. I think God has gotten a bad rap. God has become very uncool. We have been told many times to believe that God doesn’t want us to have sex, and that God basically doesn’t want us to do anything that’s any fun at all. No wonder God has become so unpopular! Nothing could be further from the truth. Here’s the secret no one in organized religion wants you to know: God is pro-sex. God wants us to have sex. God is actually the definition of cool. God created every cool thing in the universe, including sex. God wants us to have joy and pleasure and fun. And the only reason we don’t do it more often is that we are creating resistance to all that good stuff. When we experience orgasm, we have released all the resistance (the negative thoughts, the negative feelings, etc.) and there is nothing left separating us from God. Whether we are having an orgasm solo or with a partner, sex and orgasm can be a path to God, to enlightenment. Now get out there and work on being more enlightened!

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We all know that the vibe of a restaurant can tip the scales between a breathtakingly romantic evening and an embarrassingly awkward first date. Similarly, and even more importantly, the atmosphere of your bedroom can make all the difference when it comes to your love life. Once you become aware of this, a lot of what I'm about to tell you is simply common sense. For example: most would agree that nothing says "not sexy" like the presence of your mom or your little cousins so, naturally, get their pictures off your nightstand! Which brings me to tip number one... 1. Choose Imagery That Puts You (and Him) in the Mood As every ad executive knows, imagery is extremely powerful when it comes to influencing our actions and moods. With this in mind, look at every photo and art piece that you're currently displaying and ask yourself, "Does this make me feel sexy/romantic/sensual? Or ... not?" Some good choices to display might be: -a piece of depicting a couple embracing (such as "The Kiss" by Gustave Klimt) -an earthy landscape with warm colors and/or flowers -a photo of you and your partner during a romantic evening or getaway -anything that feels sexy and reminds you of romance and togetherness 2. Go Heavy on the Warm Warm and earthy colors open the heart and activate emotional connection. That's why it's best if colors such as red, rust, orange, pink, terra cotta, brown, yellow, gold or beige predominate in your bedding choices. If you're a big fan of pure white sheets, at least add touches of warmth in the accessories (throw pillows, duvet, or blanket). Cooler colors like green and blue can be cooling to the emotions and passions. 3. Be Touchy-Feely A faux fur or chenille throw, a plush area rug, or a satin throw pillow or two can add a luxurious flavor to our amorous adventures while getting us out of our heads and into our bodies. 4. Flatter Yourself Have you ever been to a strip club? I have. The lighting was superb, and made every dancer look like a goddess no matter how many curves she may or may not have possessed. Why not treat your bedroom the same way? Flatter your body and illuminate your goddess-ness with soft and ambient lighting. You might consider: -a strand of white twinkle (Christmas) lights -strategically placed red lightbulbs -candles 5. Put Your Work Stuff Somewhere Else You have to focus! Bedrooms are for intimacy, romance, and rest (all three of which work together synergistically for best results). Items that remind you of work can be distracting and subtly yet powerfully detrimental to the desired mood. 6. Diffuse Aphrodisiacs Love potions are real things! There are a number of natural essential oils (available online and at health food stores) that are not only relaxing and stress-relieving, but are also known aphrodisiacs. Put a few drops in an oil burner or diffuser to reap their benefits. Some good choices would include: -jasmine -vanilla -patchouli -ylang ylang 7. Promote Equality and Create the Space for Two Whether you currently share a bedroom or not, if possible, have a nightstand and a lamp on each side of the bed. If there's no room for nightstands, see if you can otherwise treat both sides of the bed the same way. This promotes feelings of equality and respect in your relationship, or if you're single, it's the fastest way to find someone new to claim the other half.

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